Positive Parenting Phrases

Transform your language, transform your relationship

Research-backed phrases that build connection and cooperation

❌Instead of saying:

"Good job!"

✅Try these instead:

"I noticed how hard you worked on that!"

"You kept trying even when it was difficult."

"Your effort really shows!"

"You should be proud of yourself!"

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Why this works:

Specific praise helps children understand what they did well and encourages them to repeat the behavior.

❌Instead of saying:

"You're so smart!"

✅Try these instead:

"You found a creative solution!"

"Your thinking helped solve that problem."

"You used great strategies to figure that out!"

"You're becoming such a problem solver!"

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Why this works:

Praising effort and process over intelligence encourages growth mindset.

❌Instead of saying:

"Perfect!"

✅Try these instead:

"You're really improving!"

"Look at your progress!"

"You're getting closer each time!"

"I can see you're learning!"

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Why this works:

Focusing on improvement rather than perfection reduces pressure and anxiety.

Quick Tips for Positive Communication

Physically lower yourself to make eye contact. This shows respect and improves connection.

Children mirror our emotional state. Stay calm to help them stay calm.

"Please put your shoes by the door" works better than "Clean up."

"I see you're having fun, AND it's time for bed" validates before redirecting.

♥It takes practice to change language patterns. Be patient with yourself.

♥Your tone matters as much as your words. Speak with warmth and respect.

♥When you slip up (we all do!), model apologizing and trying again.

♥Connection before correction - ensure your child feels loved and safe first.